Have You been Abused in Your Marriage

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(Ephesians 5:22, 25)

***ASK BILL: Pastor Bill, since we only have one Holy Bible how can so many denominations claim different meanings? You can take the same verse and each group says it means a different thing.

ANSWER: That is why it is CRITICAL for people to read and study the Bible, so they can spot bad doctrine, or man-made traditions that have no Biblical support. On all of the main issues of faith, who is God, who is Jesus, the Holy Spirit, what is sin, our purpose, and most important, salvation, are not disputed. They are clear enough for a 3rd grader to understand. Sadly, it is on many non-critical issues that men have fallen into satan’s trap of division, mainly in order to create their own separate churches. The motivation is usually to have earthly power and wealth. The good news, when a person dies, it won’t matter the name of the building you chose to worship in, only if you have accepted Jesus as your Savior by faith or have rejected Him.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” Ephesians 5:25

“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. ” Ephesians 5:22

Have you been abused in your marriage? There is not a more difficult issue that I have to deal with every day than abuse. People are abused in many ways. Physical, sexual, verbal, emotional, and financial are the most common forms of abuse and can happen at every stage of life. Children are abused. Teens are abused. Adults are abused. The elderly are abused. This is such a sweeping, widespread issue that so many face in their life I could do an entire month of Devotionals on just this one topic alone. I have dealt with abuse many times over the years. Just earlier in the year I dealt with the sexual abuse of children. However, today I want to focus strictly on those who are in an abusive marriage.

One of the dark secrets in the church is the amount of abuse that takes place in so many homes, from pastors and those in leadership down to the person in the pew. Remember, these are not homes of people who deny God’s existence, reject the Bible as Truth, or have rejected the love of Christ. These are homes of people who do believe in God, do believe the Bible is Truth, and do believe in Jesus! These are also homes where one spouse is abusing the other, and in some cases, both spouses are abusing each other! To people on the outside, these may look like perfect marriages. Only the husband and wife know that there is a dark side to their marriage, abuse.

Let me say that this is why I implore people to take the TIME and the EFFORT to build a spiritual foundation to their marriage BEFORE they get married. Everyone is on their best behavior, says all the right things when they are dating. However, over time, you begin to know who the person you are planning to marry really is. It is very difficult to pray with someone, read the Word with someone, go to church with someone, find ways to serve the Lord with someone, talk about all of the key issues of your future life together, do this over a year or two, and all of a sudden after you take your wedding vows discover the person you married is an abuser.

Does that happen? Yes! People do change over time. When you add in the pressure of careers, children, the issues of life we all have to face along this journey, on top of what I have always said is the most difficult thing in the world, making two flesh become one in marriage, people do change. Abuse CAN enter into even the most Christ-centered marriage. The key is to deal with it IMMEDIATELY. Don’t let abuse exist. Fight it right away. The very first time it occurs, deal with it! Otherwise, like all sin, it will only grow and get worse. ABUSE DOES NOT JUST GO AWAY OVER TIME, IT ONLY GETS WORSE OVER TIME!

Please understand that God NEVER intended you or anyone to be abused. If your husband or wife abuses you in any way, confront them immediately since they need professional and spiritual help. If the abusing spouse refuses to get help, do not be a hero! You are going to accomplish NOTHING by staying in an abusive marriage. Your very life could be at stake. Please listen to me carefully. I am NOT saying to run out and get a divorce. I am saying to separate yourself from your abusing spouse until they are willing to deal with their abuse and get professional and spiritual help.

Saying I’m sorry is NOT going to make everything better. Abusers are professional apologizers. They are masters at it. I don’t doubt that they are sincere. So is the alcoholic who is hung over, feeling like it would be better to die and vowing to never drink again. Or the gambler who loses a huge bet saying he will never bet again. Until they are serious enough to seek out help, seek the Lord for the strength to live in freedom from their abusive ways, they are not going to change. Like any addiction, an abuser has to want to stop and then take the steps necessary professionally and spiritually to get victory over their abusive ways.

Only after time has passed and the abusive spouse has shown a track record of making changes in their life, should the abused spouse even think about moving back into the same home. What are they supposed to do in the meantime? Stand in the gap for their spouse. Pray for them to turn to the Lord and find His strength to turn from their abusive ways. Press into the Lord since they will need His strength and His presence to heal and move forward with their life. The biggest trap during this time is getting involved with someone else. Remember, you are still married! Did you really mean it when you made your vows to your spouse and to God, “For better or for worse?”

Now is the time to make your faith real, shun the wisdom of the world that says get divorced, find someone else, and move on. Take a stand for your marriage. God is NOT going to bless a relationship you get involved with outside of your marriage. As a matter of fact, it will only compound your problems. Remember, God will not and is not going to bless sin! We all come to those places in life when we have to put our faith to the test and really trust God. It is at those moments of our life that we find our faith, we learn how to depend on and trust in God with everything we have, and come to realize that the promises in the Bible really are for us and they are true! God will protect you, provide for you, care for you, love you, and keep you as you give yourself completely to Him!

I love you and care about you so much. This issue today only highlights again how critical it is to build a strong spiritual foundation with your future spouse over a period of time PRIOR to getting married. You can potentially save yourself so much pain and heartache if you do. Marriage is an incredible blessing from God, a wonderful journey through this life with the person God has given you to share it with. It should be the greatest relationship in your life outside of your relationship with Jesus Christ. To have this person you have committed the rest of your life to abuse you is so sad and tragic.

When we talk about the abuse issue, we normally think of physical and sexual abuse. However, the most common form of abuse in most Christian marriages is verbal, emotional, and financial. For you men and women who are currently abusing your spouse in any way, you know this is not how God has called you to treat your wife or husband. Out of the billions of people on this planet, this is the ONE PERSON God has given to you to share your life with. Why would you abuse that person in any way? God is speaking to you today. God is telling you today to get the help you need, professionally and spiritually. Being an abuser is no different than being an alcoholic, drug addict, or having any other bondage. You need God to set you free!

I will be praying for you today. Praying that the Holy Spirit will bring you under conviction and that you will fall on you knees today and ask God to forgive you. Then go get the help you need to find freedom from your abusive ways. I will also be praying for you wives and husbands who are being abused. I pray that God will watch over you and protect you, that He will give you the strength to stand up to your abusive spouse and hold them accountable for their abuse. That the Lord will help you to make whatever tough choices you have to make so that you are not living your life each day being abused. I will be praying for God to bring healing to your life, help you to forgive your spouse so that you can move forward.

In the end, this tragic issue like all boils down to Jesus. Those who live in rebellion to God and His Word, who have rejected Christ’s love in their life, will never understand why you need to be saved and marry someone who is also saved They will never comprehend why it is so critical to build a spiritual foundation to your relationship PRIOR to getting married. They have bought the lies of this world that sex is a sport to play with whoever is willing. They wake up one morning, their lives are a mess, they have been abused in every way imaginable, and they can’t understand why. For them, their only hope and answer is to know Jesus and allow Him to bring healing to their life and transform them into a new creature in Christ.

For those who know the Lord as their Savior, they have no excuse for not calling on His name. We all sin and do things we wish we didn’t do. The key, however, is recognizing our sinful actions, repenting, and asking the Lord to forgive us. We need to remember that when we are weak, He is strong, and to call upon His strength to live a life pleasing and acceptable to the Lord. God does not desire anyone to abuse their spouse but to love them like He loves us. God does not desire that anyone lives in an abusive marriage, but one of peace and love with Christ at the center.

In His love and service,
Your friend and brother in Christ,

Bill Keller

(C)opryright 2014, Live Prayer Church, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

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The Real Problems of this Nation are Spiritual not Political

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(Isaiah 58:1)

***ASK BILL: Pastor Bill, does God love everyone, that is, every human being ever born? I don’t believe He does. In a multitude of occasions, God has directed His chosen instrument to destroy (kill) many peoples, including men, women, children, infants, and even their animals. God Himself, by His own Hand has destroyed a multitude of people (i.e. The Flood). So, “if” he does in fact love every human being, that would have to mean He destroyed/killed many of those whom He actually loved. I cannot begin to fathom that He would do that.

ANSWER: YES! We are created in His image and He loves each one of us. Sadly, it was man’s freewill CHOICE to rebel against God, and thus, man who was created to live forever in fellowship with God not only had that bond broken, but would now experience physical death as well. In the cases in the OT where God directed His people to kill all men, women, children, and living things, it was because those were people groups who chose to live in rebellion to God and did not seek peace, only the destruction of God’s people. Same with Noah’s flood, it was to PRESERVE His people. Acts of nature are a byproduct of man’s sin which also destroyed the perfection his environment. God loved each of us SO MUCH, that He actually sent His Son to die for the sins of ALL mankind.

“Shout it aloud, do not hold back. Raise your voice like a trumpet. Declare to my people their rebellion and to the house of Jacob their sins.” Isaiah 58:1

The REAL problems of this nation. Now that that the noise and distraction of the election is behind us, it is time to focus on the REAL problems in this nation which are spiritual, not political. Elections come and go, politicians come and go, and by the very nature of the corrupt institution of politics, nothing ever really changes. Case in point, over $4 BILLION was just spent and in the end, NOTHING will change.

I have been sounding this trumpet for over 15 years, educating people that whoever gets elected in the end it doesn’t matter since those who worship the god of politics and are part of that inherently corrupt institution have no ability to make any real changes in this nation, especially since the real changes necessary have nothing to do with politics but are spiritual.

Saddest to me is to see so many supposed “Christian leaders” compromising their faith for temporal political power. IT WAS THE FAILURE OF GOD’S MEN TO LEAD THE PEOPLE SPIRITUALLY THAT LED TO THE SPRITUAL DOWNFALL OF ISRAEL!!! IT IS THAT SAME DEARTH OF SPIRITUAL LEADERSHIP THAT HAS LED THIS NATION INTO THE SPRITUAL ABYSS!

TOO MANY MEN OF GOD, LIKE THE OT PRIESTS, ARE MORE WORRIED ABOUT THE TEMPORAL THINGS OF THIS WORLD SUCH AS MONEY AND POWER THAN THE ETERNAL SOULS OF MEN. MEN OF GOD, LIKE THE OT PRIESTS, MORE WORRIED ABOUT BUILDING THEIR KINGDOM THAN THE KINGDOM OF GOD!!!

People are looking for a leader. That is why the anti-Christ will amass such power, since one of his attributes is that he will be a true leader. The greatness of a Washington, of a Lincoln, of a Reagan, was first and foremost their LEADERSHIP! They had a vision, they were able to articulate that vision, and the people followed.

It is the exact same problem we have in the church. Men of God are happy to preach to the choir, stay in the confines of the four walls of their churches and ministries, and stay out of anything controversial since that isn’t good for “business.”

You can quote me on this one. “It takes vision to lead, it takes guts to lead, and it takes men with a higher purpose than themselves to lead!!!” Bill Keller, Founder of Liveprayer

I love and care about you so much. Politicians come and go, parties are in power and out of power, but in the end since the real problems in this nation are spiritual and not political. As Godly citizens of our nation we are required to vote for the most Godly men and woman who may help in some way advance Biblical Truth, but can never lost sight that only by turning this nation back to God can our nation be saved!

I am SICK each day that I have to waste even a few paragraphs of my time with you in the Devotional, an average of 2 hours a day on the phone and emailing friends, asking for your help. I don’t need your money to pay for buildings, the operations of buildings, to pay for a huge staff of people and all of those associated costs. Nor do I need your money so I can live like the ruler of a small nation, flying around in a private jet.

I can assure you that over 93 cents of every dollar you give to Liveprayer goes directly to getting God’s Truth into the mainstream and save souls! You would be shocked at how much of your donation to most ministries goes to “overhead.” Anyone who understands the budget of your local church clearly sees how much of what is taken in goes to upkeeping buildings and other non-ministry operations. I certainly have no problem asking you to help me impact lives, save souls, and turn this nation back to God and His Truth!!!

I DO need you money to help me LEAD the people in these last days! I DO need your money to help me bring God’s Truth into the marketplace the church has abandoned and left to the wolves of satan. I DO need your money to help me bring hope to the hurting and salvation to the lost.

For 15+ years now, Liveprayer HAS LED THE PEOPLE! We HAVE NOT compromised the Truth of God’s Word even when it cost us tens of thousands in donations. We have NOT been afraid to take on the wolves of satan on their own turf to battle for souls. We have been shunned by the Christian “establishment” because we won’t play their political games or be used by them to help them make money, much like the OT prophets were shunned by the religious “establishment” of their day.

I don’t have time for the games they play, since we have precious hours left. In these final days of 2014 God’s wrath is imminent. We have already seen His judgment unleashed in earnest and increase with each month. This is NOT a game. Sadly, most people ignored the warnings of the prophets, choosing instead to listen to the ear-tickling of the priests. The prophets had nothing to gain other than fulfilling their calling to God, while the priests were so lost in the temporal they couldn’t see what was about to happen.

I am simply asking today for your prayers, and that you take your stand with me. Together, we CAN LEAD THE PEOPLE! Together, we can see this nation turn back to God and His Truth! We have no time left, and unless we wake the people up and deal with the REAL PROBLEMS THAT ARE SPIRITUAL, this nation will be lost and gone forever!

***OCTOBER FINANCIAL UPDATE: With the mail Tuesday, we still require the final $7,000 of our October internet budget, the $28,000 we are behind as of the end of September on our Chicago TV contract, plus the $10,000 we need for October’s TV budget. That is a total of just $45,000, and than we can begin to work on the $40,000 we require for our November internet operations and the $25,000 for TV during November!
We started last week requiring $100,000 by the end of this month to be totally current with our internet and TV budgets, and after the $55,000 we received over these many days that total is down to $45,000 ($38,000 for TV and $7,000 for the internet) required immediately!!! Please keep praying about the sacrifce God is calling you to make to help me insure we end this month with all of our ministry operations current!!!

—>I NOW REQUIRE JUST 45 OF OUR FRIENDS WHO WILL HELP ME TODAY WITH A SPECIAL ONE-TIME $1,000 GIFT OR MORE SO WE CAN CLEAR UP OUR OCTOBER OPERATIONS!!! Please pray about a special one-time year-end gift of $1,000 or more to help me insure Liveprayer continues to be a beacon of light to so many each day! Many will be getting a year-end bonus. Some of you have recently sold a home, some property, a business, stocks, or something else. Please pray about sending a portion of those funds to help God’s work here at Liveprayer!!!

TO GIVE A GIFT TO LIVEPRAYER, you can use your major credit card on our secure server at: http://www.liveprayer.com under the “Donation” link, you can give using your PayPal account using my email address: bkeller@liveprayer.com , or you can mail your gift to: Liveprayer, 6660 46th Ave. North, St.Petersburg, FL 33709. All gifts to Liveprayer are 100% tax deductible.

Thank you and God bless you and your family as we press on towards the prize!

In His love and service,
Your friend and brother in Christ,

Bill Keller

(C)opryright 2014, Live Prayer Church, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

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