(Ephesians 5:28; 1 Peter 3:7; Song of Solomon 8:7; Genesis 29:20)

Men of God Don’t Need Viagra, Levitra, or Cialis! Let me say right up front that there is a small percentage of men who do have legitimate physiological issues that affect their ability to perform sexually, and drugs like these can help them enjoy a healthy sex life with their wife as God intended. But you have three major competing drug companies spending tens of millions of dollars on advertising to mass market these drugs to men, primarily in the 40-70 demographic, as the answer to having a great sex life. While these are drugs for men that are sexually dysfunctional, they are being aggressively marketed as the magic pill to turn men into a sexual dynamo. This is a lie from the depths of Hades my friend.

The first question is why the explosion in this type of product? When Viagra was first introduced several years ago, it became apparent there was an incredible market for men in that 40-70 age group for this type of drug. Again, never forget this is a drug to help those who have a legitimate physical problem having sex. The drug makers soon realized that they could also subtly market this drug to the majority of men who didn’t have a physical problem, as the answer to having a great sex life. It fed right into the male ego and the increasing percentage of men that had never had a sex life based on God’s Word.

I often speak of the fact that the better percentage of the last two generations have never been to church. These are people who do not know Christ as their Savior, nor do they follow God’s Word in their lives. The men in these generations have grown up with the world’s view of sex and have never known God’s plan for their sex lives. Subsequently these men have sexual histories that almost always include pornography, strip clubs and adult bookstores, masturbation, sex with many partners-women and men, sex with prostitutes, adultery, and relationships that were based solely on sex.

THESE MEN VIEW WOMEN AS LITTLE MORE THAN SEX OBJECTS.

Sadly, they have never known sex the way God intended it to be.

What is God’s way? What is God’s plan for sex? Don’t forget that it is God who created sex. It is His gift to a man and woman that have made a lifetime commitment to each other and to God in His Holy Institution of Marriage. PERIOD. Any sex outside of marriage is a perversion of God’s intended plan and is a sin. Sex is for marriage ONLY! When people buy the lies of this world about sex, engage in sex outside of God’s plan, they miss the wonderful joy that sex is intended to be. While they may experience a few moments of physical pleasure, they totally miss the special bond between the woman God has given you to spend the rest of your life with. THAT is the real joy of sex that can’t be duplicated or experienced any other way!

Men, do you want to have the ultimate sexual experience? Let me tell you today that you are not going to find it in a pill, but in following God’s plan for sex. It starts with NOT having sex until you are married. That means keeping yourself pure for the one you will commit the rest of your life to. Stay away from the porn, stay out of the strip clubs, and guard your mind from the things this world tempts you with that cause you to fall into the sin of lust. You are not an animal. God has given you the ability to CONTROL YOUR FLESH. The key is you have to want to control your flesh, you have to practice controlling your flesh, and you have to stay on guard at all times.

God did not put women on the earth for your sexual pleasure. They are not sexual objects. God created the woman to be a lifetime partner for the man, 100% equal but with different roles to play. Sexual object is NOT one of those roles but is actually a perversion of God’s precious creation! Sadly, there are too many women willing to play that perverted role of sexual object which only reinforces in the minds of many men this is what women are for. Women need to realize that God created them in His own image and they have eternal worth. Their value is in who they are in Christ, not their bodies. Women, don’t let satan lie to you that you are here simply as a sexual object!

The other issue that needs to be addressed is as men get older, there is a natural decline in their sexual energy and desire. That is normal. However, it is accelerated in large part to the fact most men get so busy in the day-to-day issues of life, that their sex life with their wife gets neglected, overlooked, and all but forgotten.

MEN, DON’T MAKE THIS MISTAKE. TAKE THE TIME TO MAKE LOVE TO YOUR WIVES.

It will make your life more enjoyable, more fulfilling, and make her life more enjoyable and fulfilling. It may sound a bit cold but as life goes on and you get busy, so plan a night together at least once a week. Don’t let anything interfere with that night. Turn off the phone, the beeper, the cell phone, the TV, the computer, and spend the night together enjoying the special gift God has given to you and your wife to share. You have to work at your sex life like anything else, and the more time and effort you put into it, the more fulfilling it will be.

I realize that many men reading this today have to heal from the way they have abused sex in their past. God will heal you from your past and help you enjoy a high quality sexual life with your wife if you surrender yourself to Him. You have to retrain your mind to understand that the only person you can have any sexual thoughts or feelings for is your wife. That is why you need to stay away from porn, things that cause you to engage in fantasies, channeling all of your thoughts towards your wife. The ultimate sexual experience is sharing yourself with the woman that God has given you to share the rest of your life with. When you do it God’s way, have that experience with your wife, you will immediately see how much you have cheated yourself by sinning in this area and realize how special and wonderful this gift from God can be.

I love you and care about you so much. I am praying for the men today to get a clear understanding of God’s intended purpose for sex. It is His gift for you and the women you vowed to spend the rest of your life with to enjoy together. God created us to have and enjoy sex just like we have been created to eat food. However, we can abuse food and literally kill ourselves just like we can abuse sex and literally kill ourselves. What you eat is a choice. Who you have sex with is a choice. My prayer for you, today, is that you will follow God’s plan for sex and choose to only have sex with your wife.

Here is my word for you today. If you will love your wife more than yourself, if you will focus all of your love on her, if you pour all of your sexual desires on her alone, you will not need any magical pills to have an incredible and fulfilling sex life.

In His love and service,

Your friend and brother in Christ,

Bill Keller

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